Sometimes It’s Lonely Being A Mom
Posted March 4, 2011on:
I’ve been kind of down lately. I can’t really pinpoint when it started but it hit me hard last night. I’m lonely. I don’t mean lonely where I don’t ever see my husband. Things are going great in that department. I mean I miss my friends.
Having a kid changes the dynamics of your friendships because for a period of time the baby is your main focus. You’re recovering from childbirth and learning about a new person who eats all of the time and sleeps sporadically. Maternity leave is SHORT (8 weeks in my case) and you go back to work sleep-deprived but have to resume your projects and still keep up with the family.
Eventually, the kid gets older, sleeps through the night, and becomes more independent. You get more rest and start finding a work-life “balance.” Your life starts returning to “normal” or a semblance of that. You’re ready to hang out again so you look around and no one’s there.
YOUR life was hold but not everyone else’s. They went on with what they were doing and you feel left behind. Or maybe they do ask you to hang out but it just doesn’t fit into your schedule and eventually they stop asking.
That’s where I am. By nature I’m an introvert and deal with a small group of people. I like being in myself and just thinking. But there are times like now where I’d like some “girl time” but I don’t think anyone’s interested. And when would I do it anyway? I could try and meet people for Happy Hour but by the time I leave work, battle traffic, pick up and drop off Li’l T at home and then head in to the city Happy Hour is over and I’m drained. Going out on Friday or Saturday night would be great except Li’l T wakes up at 6/6:30 am regardless of what time I go to bed. And since it’s usually he and I in the mornings I need to be rested. Is it even worth it?
I don’t know. Maybe I’m just having a pity party. There are people who are in REAL bad situations and I’m over here whining. I just wanted to be honest that being a mom isn’t always rainbows and unicorns.