Rainbows and Dragonflies

I’ve always been the type of person that wants to celebrate one holiday before the next. I don’t like my holidays to mesh and hate how the stores rush one without us being able to enjoy it before the next begins. I’m especially annoyed that Black Friday started early this year and Thanksgiving was a work day for many non-essential people. Instead of people spending time with family they were manning stores to sell things that could wait another day. Yes, I’m one of those people who doesn’t like Black Friday. I used to work retail and after seeing many fights and trying to protect myself from the crowds I refuse to participate. I just don’t get a thrill from the rush.

Anyway, I can tell that over the past few years consumerism has been sapping my holiday spirit. Last year I didn’t get into the holidays until Christmas Eve. *sigh* I don’t want to do that again. I want to enjoy the time with my family. So, this year we bought a tree, some decorations and I baked cookies for Big T and my friends. Christmas cards are on display, music is on repeat and we’re watching our favorite movies. Listening to my son yell “Crismah tree” is better than anything in the world and I hope that I remember it for years to come.

I wish you the most blessed time during this holiday season. Enjoy it and all of the memories that are created. Happy Holidays from my family to yours.


Since, Li’l T was born we’ve put off trips thinking that he’d be too young to enjoy them. It seemed to be a good idea at the time but I’ve started to rethink it. A lot of our friends and family aren’t in this area and we miss out on seeing them. At the end of April we drove to Ohio to visit Bhan and family from BhanVoyage. It was a 7 1/2-8 hour drive through the mountains of Western Maryland, Pennsylvania and West Virginia. We discovered that Li’l T is a great road buddy. He sings, talks and just hangs out in the back seat. The drive went really quickly and I now know what the PA Turnpike is. I’m highly considering getting an EZPass in anticipation of more travel. We made about 3 stops total for food, gas and potty breaks.

When we arrived he was immediately enamored with Bhan’s cat and dog (Scrooge and Macy). And even decided that he was going to rest in Macy’s kennel. :-\ It was a fun but short trip. We encountered a little traffic on the way back but Li’l T took it in stride. We only had one mishap when Li’l T got extremely hungry and all of the rest stations were closed. We had to hop off the Turnpike and find a fast food restaurant. A batch of fries in his tummy and he was all good.

Now that we know how he does on long car rides I’m ready, to make some more trips. I wonder where should be we go next?

What we learned from traveling with a little one:

  • Pack LOTS of snacks. You never know when the little belly will need to be filled when there are no restaurants in sight.
  • Don’t be in a rush. Unexpected things happen. Traffic jams, explosive diapers, etc. Just know that going in and add a buffer of extra time.
  • Wear loose comfortable clothing. You’re going to be in the car for a while. Don’t wear anything constricting that will make you uncomfortable during the drive.
  • Take time to rest. Build in time to visit rest stops even if all you do is stretch. Getting out of the car for a few moments can save everyone’s sanity.
  • Pack activities. Give the little one something to do in the backseat. A game, a book, anything to keep the mind occupied.

With mommy at the Pennsylvania line

With Daddy

Easter grass

Poor Bhan's living room after Hurricane Li'l T

Playing in the cat toy

Taking over Macy's crate

For the past few months we’ve been potty training Li’l T with the help of his daycare. They have a schedule at daycare where he goes regularly and he’ll go to the potty without any urging when he’s at home. We’re halfway there. When he went on vacation last month my younger sister bought him his first pack of little boy underwear. I’m not ready for him to be a big boy but it’s about time to get him out of diapers. The glitch in the system is that he hasn’t made the connection yet that he isn’t supposed to go in his undies. If he’s bottomless he hops on the potty but when he has on undies he equates them with diapers and goes in them. I know it’s a process and he’ll get it eventually. I just want to make sure we help him move forward and not backward.

Since he still wears diapers at daycare we’ve been thinking about switching him to some sort of training pants. My head is swimming after reading the pros and cons of disposable versus cloth training pants. At this point I think we’re going to go cloth. One, because it’s eco-friendly, less expensive and we can go back to a similar process that we used for his cloth diapers. Two, I think disposable will be too similar to diapers and it’ll be harder for him to transition to his big boy underwear.

Are you potty training as well? How is it going for you? Do you have a child who’s potty trained and have some tips and tricks to share? Let’s hear it.

Photo Dump

Posted on: August 21, 2012

I’m behind on posting photos so here’s a large photo dump of the  kookiness from the past few months.

Hi everyone. I know that I’ve been gone for a while. Twitter has sucked me in and I’ve neglected my poor space over here.  I miss blogging though so I’M BAAAACK! So, how have things been with us? Let’s review.

Li’l T

  • My baby has started Preschool work this week. Where has the time gone? How is he old enough for this now? I know he can count to 20 and recognize numbers 1-9 but STILL?! I’ll get over it, eventually. LOL
  • He has a fascination with insects. Every small crawling bug is an ant. Every big bug with wings is a bee. A walk outside isn’t complete without him stopping, staring at the ground and yelling ANT!
  • Last month Li’l T went on his yearly week vacation to my hometown. He flew for the FIRST TIME! I can admit that I was a bit messed up because I wasn’t on the flight with him. He flew with my dad and nephew and from what I heard he was a great passenger. I know that he needs to be a regular flyer as a kid so he doesn’t grow up to be like me. Squeamish about taking flights. :-\
  • A few weeks ago he had an incident at daycare with his “girlfriend.” Basically, she’s a sweetheart but she has a big sister that she wrestles with all of the time. The two of them were playing and she pushed him. He fell and scraped up his face. *sigh* I know she didn’t mean it. When I picked him up the two of them were playing as usual. His cuts have healed now and we’re just waiting for his skin tone to even out.
  • Li’l T is VERY territorial about  the back seat. If I open the center console he kicks it closed. My father got into the backseat and Li’l T tried to PUSH him out. I put my arm on the back of the passenger seat when I’m driving in reference and he starts yelling and kicking. *smh* He’s going to have to learn to share.
  • We’re battling his issue with walking in parking lot. He used to not have any problems but he’s been startled by some moving vehicles driving through. It scares him to the point that he tries to get back in the car or run back on the sidewalk. You never know if he’ll want to walk to or from the car of if he’ll want to be carried. Poor thing.
  • Two weeks ago we converted Li’l T’s crib to a toddler bed. He was OVERJOYED that he could climb in and out without anyone’s help. The fun comes in when he doesn’t want to go to sleep. He starts opening and closing his door REPEATEDLY. If he sees someone watching him he runs to his bed and pretends that he is sleeping. 😐 Where do they get these ideas? LOL
  • Favorite words: Help, oh no, mommy, daddy
    • I want to find the person who taught him the word help and drop him off on his/her doorstep. Li’l T will YELL help when he can’t get his way or when he drops something. I’m sure that people think I’m kidnapping him. 😐
    • He’s finally started calling us mommy and daddy. That’s a gift and a curse. He will call me until I answer and sometimes only says “me” repeatedly. Dern kid.
  • Favorite shows: Pocoyo, Fresh Beat Band, Wonder Pets
  • He’s in the parrot phase now. So he repeats EVERYTHING he hears. We have to start being careful around him since we never know when he’s paying attention to us.


  • There is isn’t a whole lot to say about me. Still continuing my fitness. I have a new blog where I post my progress and inspirational thoughts. Check me out over there: http://mommywantsasixpack.tumblr.com/
  • I’m REALLY into sewing now. I’ve done a few skirts and a pair of shorts for Li’l T. In some upcoming posts I’ll recap what went well and what went wrong for each project.

Big T

  • He’s in grad school now and football season has started. So, that’s been a challenge for his and family time BUT we’ll make it work like we always do.

Well, that’s about it. What’s been up with you guys since I last posted?

My name is Rae, and I have No Shame. I am the daughter of a woman who was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. I didn’t know this officially until years later but I remember seeing self-help books near my mother’s side of the bed. I always wondered why but it was years before I heard stories of her past. My mother had a rough childhood that carried with her and at some point in time she began self-medicating. She spent time in and out of hospitals to deal with her addictions but I believe in my heart of hearts that her underlying mental illness wasn’t treated very well. At one point she was put on Lithium and I remember that she didn’t want to take it because it made her mind foggy.

My mother was my idol. She would sit up with me late at night while the house was asleep and just TALK. Anything that I could think of she would listen and make me laugh. It hurt me to my core when she wasn’t available physically or mentally. I started retreating into a shell when I got to high school and I felt like I spent more time without than with her. As a family, we found it difficult to deal with the ramifications of her habits of self-medicating. How I wish I knew then what I know now. How we ALL could have used some therapy. How if only we had been taught some ways to cope, to understand what she was going through.

She passed away in September of 2006 because of health complications. For a while I blamed that situation on me not being around more since I lived out of state. At the hospital they found drugs and alcohol in her system. Her coping mechanisms. I know now that it wasn’t anything I could control and that she lived her life the best way she could. Since, my mother’s passing I’ve decided that none of my loved ones will have to suffer in silence believeing that I don’t care. Mental Illness is a serious topic and shouldn’t be swept under the rug. If you feel that you need help, reach out and know that there are people who will support you. Please visit The Siwe Project’s website to share your story or encourage others who have shared. You can also tweet The Siwe Project at @thesiweproject on twitter with the hashtag #NoShame.

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